Hey Anony-Mouse, I know you said you won't believe me, but I do remember you. The medical field is a good career choice. Good luck to you!
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oh? I've returned?
by Anony-Mouse inguess what?
i got internet!
not only internet, but high speed internet!
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My Son's Shunning begins......So Sad
by nomoreguilt inin an earlier thread i spoke of my younger son going to move in with his girlfriend, non jw.
he's 30, baptised, divorced hasn't been to meetings in three years and in good standing.
so, yesterday i had the opportunity to help him move.
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NMG,
One thing I never enforced, even as a witness, was shunning my son who was dfd as a teenager. He was the oldest and his siblings saw my reaction to his situation. As teenagers, they never shunned him either. Now, as adults, they choose to be witnesses. They choose to not be close to him now, but neither strictly shun him. We have had them together at BBQ's.
One thing I have come to accept though, is that they each have their own decisions to make in life and I can't force everyone to get along. I have and still do let them know that I think shunning is totally wrong. They do lead very different lives and that is their choice. I see good in all of them and always will. I am their mother.
Your son may have treated you wrongly when you were dfd, and that is sad. He may have been following his mother's lead or been afraid of losing his friends, who knows? Taking a stand against shunning may help him see another side, but your sons may still choose to lead very different lives.
Grown children not getting along does not only happen to witnesses. I have sisters who basically shun each other and neither is religious in any way. What I learned from watching my parents is not to let any child force you to take sides. Let them work out their own differences, but love them all.
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My Son's Shunning begins......So Sad
by nomoreguilt inin an earlier thread i spoke of my younger son going to move in with his girlfriend, non jw.
he's 30, baptised, divorced hasn't been to meetings in three years and in good standing.
so, yesterday i had the opportunity to help him move.
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NMG,
I have grown children in and out of the org. I agree with CoCo that being nonconfrontational generally has worked best. I haven't attended for years and continue to fade to keep the peace. I try to consider their feelings in each situation as I realize it was me who brought them into this strange religion.
The one thing I am adamant about is family relationships. When one is speaking badly about the other, I will sympathize with their concerns, but then remind them that they only have one brother and not to forget that special relationship.
In your case, you know what works best for your family. Just remember to promote peace between everyone rather than division. It may take a very long time to reach our loved ones with sensible thinking. It may not happen at all. The org. tries to split families, as you mention. Your sons have only one mother, father and brother and they should cherish those relationships. Anything you can say or do to make that happen is in their best interests.
It is like dancing on a high wire, but it is worth the effort. Good luck!
cl
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The Ultimate bachelor pad....men living in the raw
by odie67 inwhen i first met my husband, he had i guess what some men would consider the ultimate apartment.
big screen tv.
an old sofa, one knife, one fork, one spoon, a pot and a skillet.
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Sounds like the basic necessities. My husband and I started out like that. Nothing like a good adventure. It teaches you to be resourceful.
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My hospital adventure....
by CoonDawg inokay...so saturday, my mom goes back to the hospital here because she's having labored breathing and chest pains.
they admit her to the hospital because she's also in a-fib.
the doctor thinks she's got fluid still in her chest from previous procedure's fuckup.
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Sounds pretty stressful to me. Hope your mom gets better soon. She's lucky to have you there to watch over her.
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Giving talks terrified my hubby-how about you?
by QuestioningEverything inme and the hubby were talking about back in the day when we had to give public talks.
i'm a natural chatterbox and not very shy.
my hubby is just the opposite.
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Always hated it. It made me physically ill. Can you say torture?
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Jehovah's Witnesses vs Pastor Russell on the resurrection of Adam
by Terry inone of the main teachings of pastor russell was that all would be enlightened with a knowledge of god's truth before they are placed on trial and judged for their final destiny.
for the majority of mankind this would be when they are raised from the dead at the time of the general resurrection.
their final judgment would be based on their conduct while enlightened and not on their conduct while in ignorance.
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Rutherford always came across as mean spirited to me. I agree he took things in a very different direction than Russell.
Never could understand how a deceived and totally innocent couple, who were shocked to discover they were naked, deserved everlasting destruction.
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The term "Jehovah God"
by kzjw ini'm having trouble with it...i accept that god has many different names, yaweh, allah, jehovah, etc.
imho, it doesn't matter what you call him as long as you him!
but what's up with "jehovah god" as i hear the term used in talks by certain elders.
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It is a way of identfying themselves and their org. with God. Makes them feel special. Jesus, who had a much closer relationship with and understanding of God, used heavenly father when he addressed God.
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JWs - the Next Generation
by Olin Moyles Ghost inmy peer group (post-1975 born-in jws) seems to approach the jw religion in a different manner than earlier generations.
now, these folks still believe the wts is "the truth" and if you say anything that sounds "apostate" they start freaking out.
but, make no mistake, these jws are not your parents' witnesses.
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I see the difference that you are talking about. I have grown kids still in and they just pick and choose what they want to apply from the borg. All generations go through teenage rebellion phases, but these ones are fundamentally different in how much control they allow the borg to have.
They are much more liberal in their choice of entertainment, dress, music, education, materialistic outlook, etc. I think they have learned to make the best of two worlds. The number one thing I do notice is the lack of being willing to sacrifice anything in their lifestyle for the borg. Yes, they go through the motions, but they live as they choose in many ways.
More power to them! They are helping to loosen the iron clasp of the society.
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What's up with that? Why does it matter?